We don't all have to pretend that everyone is the same and that we don't see differences. Nobody is the same or responds in the same way to the same things. Some people are so sensitive that it's hard to even talk with them so you find yourself altering your "normal" way of being to accommodate their sensitive needs. In the opposition, some people are super defensive making any conversation with them feel like being in a battle field trying to avoid all of their triggers. Then there's the merging of families with all of these special personality needs and it is a true challenge to find harmony. It kind of makes a "no food policy" being around a child with food allergies look like an attainable goal and a walk in the park. People seem to be more willing to adapt psychologically than physically with actions and changed behaviors. Managing the avoidance of deadly invisible allergens teaches you to reevaluate what constitutes a real problem.
We need to embrace the differences by not comparing everyone to the same "normal" model. People tell me how Sophia needs to go here and there because some other children went and liked it. The concept needs to stick that Sophia is not "other children". She is her own unique self and her needs are different and specific. She is a child living with a severe food allergy, and she can't be made to fit inside someone else's box. Her experience doing "normal" public things is different because she has to be on high allergy alert, being told not to touch anything and wiping & cleaning everything to keep her safe. She doesn't receive the same fun experience as children who are able to be carefree while playing amongst milk proteins. It is much better to make things less stressful for her by bringing her into safe environments where we don't have to bog her down with the constant threats to her health. Food allergy parents need people to realize that our kids aren't missing out on fun unless their needs are left out. Our children may be the minority of the population but they deserve an equal voice to make their health requirements heard.